I let you in my home how dare you disrespect me

I believe respect starts with the person that you are with. Psychiatrist state that when your partners friends or family disrespect your boundaries this is due to your partner's discussions with them speaking negatively about you.

I will start off with I'm not the easiest person but one thing is I will speak my mind. If we aren't friends and you make me spirit uncomfortable I will not speak.

I've just given birth to my child, I had seen enough family members and I was going through post traumatic stress. This was for worse time of my life, adapting to my body changing but also dealing with other marital stuff.

My other half decided to invite his friend, a friend that honestly I'm not the biggest fan of. My reason, he has no respect at all. He came over, prior I had a rule that I didn't really want any friends coming around or taking pictures. This was due to the fact that I was at my worse. I didn't look good, I could barely walk. Honestly, my baby didn't look pleasant at this time. He was overdue which meant he was frail and his skin was peeling. He had sores and gunk still in his hair.

This young man came over making so much noise, super inconsiderate. Knowing full well I was resting.

On top of all this he took a picture of my child without even asking and posted it on social media.

I saw my notifications going off...

I answered

My friends were going off stating I had double standards. How am I allowing my partners friend to take pictures of the child and posting when they weren't allowed.

I was flabbergasted, I couldn't walk but adrenaline rushed through my body. I sped walk and literally shouted to take it down. There was silence, I screamed now. I waddled back and layer there.

So much was going through my mind the biggest thing ... people are going to laugh saying my baby was ugly. That thought broke my heart. I'm a mother, I will always protect my child, they have no one else to defend them. This world is an awful place.

It did not stop there

A few months later they were invited again to my home it was two of them this time.

I could sense there was some type of attitude so I ignored because I was working from home and cooking dinner so baby boy could eat.

As I'm cooking my baby is crying, he had caught a cold from his nursery before so he was super miserable. I tried to comfort him, the friend made a comment ... he's crying because he does not have enough toys...

I ignored him because in my head I thought how do you know what he has. I started to share out some jollof rice the baby. The friend felt the need to comment that its too spicy and I should not feed him this. Bare in mind this was infront of everyone. I was annoyed because i was thinking I didn't invite you to my home. On top of this you are cooking with the gas that I payed for and your here being disrespectful.

He made his last comment ... you guys aren't giving him enough love .... I lost it .. I said ... you have your child coming soon, focus on that and mind your business..

One thing I don't like is when others feel the need to comment on new parents parenting.

Please mind your business and make your own!